Do your words match what is going on inside of you? I ask because animals are receivers of energy and masters at reading energy. If your words don’t match the energy that is flowing in you then you are incongruent. For example if you have had an exacerbating time at work and are seething on the inside and act like everything is fine - - you don’t match inside and out. When you are incongruent you become a little suspect and untrustworthy to your animals since you are not reliably tracking the energy within.
Every animal responds differently to incongruence; they may act out by playing out the energy they feel, they may move in close since they are worried about you, they may bite you or scratch you. Or they may not listen to or respond to you. Their behaviors are trying to get you into the present moment to connect with yourself and become congruent.
When you match on the inside and outside in the eyes of the animals you become more reliable and trustworthy. Now imagine seething from your exacerbating time at work and letting your loyal companion know that you had a hard day and express with words what you're feeling the best that you can. For example just admitting and saying out loud “My day was really hard and I am so frustrated at my job. I am really mad and here are all the reasons I am mad…...”
No matter what the truth, your animals will hear it and stay in connection because you are like them accurately tracking the energy (your emotions) and being congruent. You are trustworthy. Allow yourself to be congruent and stay in connection with your animals.
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Happy Summer. I hope you are all well as can be expected in this world that seems to be turned inside out and upside down. For a little break from the chaos, tension, and uncertainty I asked the animals what they can share with people right now that would be helpful. I ask the animals because they are masters at reading energy and they can feel the energy of the collective. They are also great teachers of presence. The animals feel the energy is constantly being stirred up right now - like a bumpy ride and they observe humans are wildly uncomfortable and not present. The animals invite you to learn from either your companion animals or wild animals about the compassionate accepting space they hold for you.
So that you can learn to hold that space for yourself and be able to sit in discomfort and still be present.
Here are some of their suggestions for you to become more present.
Leave the computer, the phone and any other electronic device and get outside.
“The idiot box or energy drain” is a term often used by the animals when talking about computers or phones. When you engage with the computer or phone to them it's as if nobody is home in your body. This makes animals very nervous and worried for you because you are not present. Their suggestion is:
Get outside, move around, feel your body.
Also, the animals notice with all this upheaval in the collective - things are getting emotionally shaken up within you. The animals encourage you to:
Turn toward the emotion. Accept and allow the emotion to be present and run its course.
Cry if you need to cry, rage if you need to rage, grieve if you need to grieve. Ask for forgiveness if you feel guilty. Emotions are just energy in motion. So allow the flow. Instead of ignoring upturned emotions by checking out and getting lost on Facebook or zoning out and watching the tv.
This is where the animals encourage you to be like them and hold a loving compassionate space for yourself. Think about how your animal is your witness no matter what you are going through or how they show up when for you when you are sad. They are there loving you, accepting you, witnessing you. Can you do this for yourself? Emotions are just energy in motion. So allow the flow.
For example, the collective grief has stirred up old stuck unresolved grief in me . A lot of the grief has been around past animals that I was not able to properly grieve when I was younger. By turning towards it and allowing the tears and sadness to flow for that particular experience and releasing the stuck energy I am able to be more present in the moment.
Smudging is one of the useful tools I have been using during conversations with animals and their humans clearing the old energy off animals and people. You can smudge and clear your energy many different ways. Your animal will appreciate you cleaning yourself off.
Also, this month there has been a lot of guilt and regret being stirred up. These big balls of stuck energy block connection to the present and to flow. The Hono'pono'hono prayer is a powerful exercise to ask for forgiveness for things that happened long ago, clear the air and be more present.
We are all in this together! Let's be in it together being as present as possible.
Summer is full of vacations and trips that often do not include the animals – which is sometimes great for us but not for them.
To make this easier, the animals have simple requests. Some of them I’ve listed below to help you and your animals have a better time apart:
Enjoy your vacation and connecting with your animals long distance.
Everyone will be happier upon your return!
At the Animal Communication Basics class in Durango, Colorado, we discussed the different ways of visualizing changes in animal companion behavior. We explored the many lines of communication that we are constantly receiving from our animals and constantly sending to our animals – though in both cases, we may not be aware of it.
One of the lines of communication is through Emotion. You and your beloved animal companion are sending and receiving each other’s feelings and emotions. You may sense their dismay when you sit down to watch TV instead of going for a walk with them. You may be sending emotions unconsciously which could mean that behavioral challenges might be arising. Take for example you want to walk on the bike path but you are afraid of your dog chasing the bikes (which he has in the past and it did not go well). Over time, you have a created a considerable amount of fear tied up with this exercise. Now, when you walk on the path you are emanating fear and it is tied to the picture of a bike. Your dog receives this message and understands that you are afraid of bikes and they become the enemy. He sees a bike and chases it to try to chase away the fear that you hold and you become even more fearful. Now, it is a catch twenty-two.
Since you have been stuck in a fear cycle around the bike, there needs to be a big energetic shift within you. It starts by beginning to send them a picture of what you do want when a bike goes by. Thoughts get switched into pictures so don’t worry about sketching out what you want, instead imagine watching the scenario you want to play out like a film. For example, you are both walking on the path with the leash loosely held and a bike is approaching. The two of you notice the bike, while the leash is still loose, your body is calm, and he is calm. As the bike approaches, you both are still calmly walking, stopping to smell the bushes or take a pee, etc. Then, the bike passes you as you two are still walking, disinterested in the presence of the bike and biker, with the leash loose between you. When the bike passes, you praise him and let you know how you like walking on the path with him when all is calm. He will feel your calm presence and enjoy walking.
Often during my class or animal communication sessions when I can sense that there is a behavioral challenge, I will invite you to reflect upon what emotion you may be sending out that may trigger this response and then start imagining what you do want instead. Sending images of how you want the situation to go is far more effective and allows you to start rewriting the movie.